Men, Please Hold the Door: The Problem With The Modern Feminist Movement

"To men, I want to apologize. I believe you when you say you’re opening the door out of the kindness, wanting to treat women with respect."


This year, there has been an increase in protests, marches and other ridiculous acts all in the name of women’s rights. As a conservative, I support the Constitution and all the rights and liberties enumerated within the document so, I do support the right that women–and even men sometimes– have to assemble and protest. With that being said, as a human that likes to practice the seemingly lost art of common sense, I have to wonder, what rights are these women fighting for? Are these protesters simply fighting for the right for someone ELSE to pay for their birth control? Are they fighting to open their own doors because men who do it for them are misogynists? Are they searching for happiness? If so, I believe they are going about it the wrong way.

According to a 2009 study from the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton Business School, women have become less happy since the 1970’s.

“By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that women’s happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men,” the author’s note of the study states.

By the significant measures that women’s lives have improved, the study’s author simply means: women vote, are now a large presence in the labor force, and even have increasing rates of higher education now more than that of men.

So why aren’t women happy anymore? The feminist movement today wants to be free from the “patriarchal” society we supposedly are a part of. But the women in this country have gained their freedom and independence from the male population. If we as women have shed the homemaker, barefoot in the kitchen, sweet but silent image of the perfect wife, then why aren’t women happier? And why are men happier than us?

The study also states “that women’s happiness has fallen both absolutely and relative to men’s in a pervasive way among groups, such that women no longer report being happier than men and, in many instances, now report happiness that is below that of men.”

After years of battling for equal rights, now that we have basically attained them shouldn’t it be expected that we have just as much happiness, if not more, than that of our gender counterparts? Or did the female population jump the gun on what they believe is the key to happiness? Do we really truly want to be equal to men or do we still want them to hold the door for us?

I want the door held open for me, in fact, I usually expect it. That isn’t to say I don’t reply with a “thank you” or a nod with a smile. In my mind, equality comes from mutual respect. Opening the door for a lady is a sign of respect, therefore I respect him in return. If a man were to run to the door, open it with just enough room for only him to get through, and then let it go, I have a feeling most women would take that as a sign of disrespect. Mutual respect can breed equality among the sexes, races, or even cultures. If women continually put men down for opening our doors yelling “oppressor!” every time, they will lose respect for us and will no longer be willing to do the right thing and hold the door.

To the men, I want to apologize. I believe you when you say you’re opening the door out of the kindness, wanting to treat women with respect. Instead of putting you down or calling you names I want to lift you up and say thank you! Because you have held the door open for me, I can get in the line in front of you at the local coffee shop. I can put my name on the list at the DMV before yours, and so much more.

Men, thank you for watching us fight for our rights and even sometimes jumping in to help while still treating us with dignity. I’m not saying all men are angels but I am simply speaking out to those who have been left feeling beaten and put down by the loud, feministic voices of the day. Thank you for holding the door for me and I hope you continue to do so. Instead of putting men down, I hope we can start a conversation of mutual respect and then perhaps our happiness as women can increase again.